Music is one of the most personal parts of a funeral. The songs you choose can reflect your loved one's personality, tell their story, or simply bring comfort to those attending. Many funeral services include three pieces of music, although this can vary depending on the venue and your wishes.
This is played as family and friends enter the chapel, or as the coffin enters if there is a procession. The music often sets the tone for the service and may be calm, uplifting, or reflect the personality of the person who has died.
A piece of music is often played during a quiet moment for reflection. This may be after the tribute or eulogy, allowing everyone time to remember their loved one. Some families choose a meaningful song, while others prefer an instrumental piece.
The final piece of music is played as the service ends and mourners leave the chapel. Many families choose something uplifting or celebratory to reflect a life well lived, while others prefer a favourite song that brings happy memories.
Although many funeral services include three pieces of music, you can choose as many or as few as you wish, depending on the length of the service and the crematorium or venue. The most important thing is choosing music that feels meaningful to you and your family.
There is no "right" music for a funeral. Some families choose:
The best choice is the music that reminds you of your loved one.
Some families choose to include live music during the service, such as:
Live music can add a very personal touch to the service. You will need to check if these options are allowed at your chosen location and they may incur an additional cost.
Ask yourself:
Music has a unique way of bringing back memories and expressing emotions that words sometimes cannot. Whether you choose classical music, hymns, or your loved one's favourite song, the most meaningful choice is one that reflects the life they lived and the memories you shared.
đź’ˇ A tip from someone who's worked in funerals: If you're including songs that have special memories, it's worth listening to them all the way through before making your final decision. Occasionally, families remember a tune but forget that some lyrics may not feel quite right for the occasion. Taking a few minutes to listen again can help you choose music that feels just right on the day.
Hymns can bring comfort, hope, and a sense of togetherness during a funeral service. Whether your loved one had a strong faith or simply had favourite hymns they enjoyed, music can be a meaningful way to celebrate their life. There is no right or wrong choice. Some families choose traditional hymns, while others decide not to include any at all.
Some of the most commonly chosen hymns include:
No. Many modern funerals include no hymns at all, instead choosing favourite songs or instrumental music. Some families prefer a mixture of both, with a hymn during the service and personal music for the entrance and exit.
Yes. If hymns are included, the words are usually shown on a screen or printed in an order of service, allowing everyone to sing if they wish. Don't worry if some people choose not to sing—everyone grieves in their own way.
When deciding, consider:
The most meaningful service is one that reflects the life of the person who has died. Whether you choose traditional hymns, modern songs, or a combination of both, there are no strict rules—only what feels right for you and your family.