Funeral Flowers

Flowers are a traditional way of expressing love, respect and remembrance. They can provide comfort to families and add a personal touch to the funeral service. There is no right or wrong choice. Some families choose elaborate floral tributes, while others prefer a single bouquet or ask for family flowers only.

Who Buys the Flowers?

There are many different options, including:

• Flowers from the immediate family.
• Individual tributes from relatives and friends.
• Flowers from work colleagues or organisations.
• Donations to a chosen charity instead of flowers.
• No flowers, if that was the wish of the person who died or their family.

Types of Floral Tributes

Florists can create many different styles of tribute, including:

• Coffin sprays.
• Posies.
• Wreaths.
• Hearts.
• Crosses.
• Cushions.
• Pillows.
• Letter tributes (such as "MUM", "DAD", "NAN" or a name).
• Bespoke designs reflecting hobbies, interests or occupations.

Choosing Flowers

Many families choose flowers that:

• Were a favourite of their loved one.
• Reflect a favourite colour.
• Match the season.
• Have a special meaning.
• Complement the overall style of the funeral.

Your florist or funeral director can help you choose suitable arrangements.

Where Are the Flowers Placed?

Flowers may be placed:

• On top of the coffin.
• Around the coffin during the service.
• At the graveside.
• Beside the crematorium catafalque.
• At a memorial service or wake.

What Happens to the Flowers Afterwards?

After the funeral, families may choose to:

• Leave the flowers on the grave.
• Take them home.
• Leave them at the crematorium if permitted.
• Share arrangements with family members.
• Donate suitable flowers to hospitals, care homes or hospices (where accepted).

Policies vary, so ask your funeral director or the cemetery or crematorium staff what is possible.

Flowers or Charity Donations?

Some families ask for donations to a favourite charity instead of flowers. This may have been the wish of the person who died or simply reflect the family's preference. If donations are requested, the chosen charity will usually be listed in the funeral notice or Order of Service.

Ordering Flowers

It is best to order funeral flowers as early as possible to give your florist enough time to prepare them. If you have a specific design, favourite flowers or colours in mind, discuss this with the florist when placing your order.

Things to Consider

Before ordering flowers, think about:

• Did your loved one have a favourite flower or colour?
• Would they have preferred family flowers only?
• Would they have preferred donations to charity?
• Is there a particular design that reflects their personality or interests?

A Final Thought

Whether you choose an elaborate floral tribute or a simple bouquet, flowers are a personal expression of love and remembrance. The most meaningful tribute is one that reflects the life and personality of the person you are honouring.

Top Tip

Don't feel you have to follow tradition. Some families choose bright, colourful flowers to celebrate a life well lived, while others prefer simple, elegant arrangements. The best choice is the one that feels right for your loved one and your family.