After the Funeral

Introduction

The funeral may be over, but there are often still practical matters to deal with in the days, weeks and months that follow. Everyone's circumstances are different, and there is no set timetable for completing these tasks. This guide explains some of the common things you may need to consider after the funeral, helping you work through them at your own pace.


Register the Death if You Haven't Already

If the death has not yet been registered due to a Coroner's investigation or other circumstances, follow the advice provided by the Coroner or Register Office before continuing with other legal and financial matters.


Deal with the Estate

If you are the executor or administrator, you may need to:

  • Apply for probate if required.
  • Collect information about assets and debts.
  • Close bank accounts.
  • Pay outstanding bills.
  • Distribute the estate according to the will or the rules of intestacy.

If the estate is complex, consider seeking professional advice.


Thank Those Who Supported You

Some families choose to send thank-you cards or messages to people who attended the funeral, sent flowers, made charitable donations or offered practical support. This is entirely a personal choice, and there is no expectation to do so.


Memorials and Headstones

If the person was buried, you may wish to arrange a memorial or headstone. Most cemeteries have rules about when a memorial can be installed, and there may be restrictions on size, materials and wording. If ashes were scattered or interred, you may wish to create a different type of memorial.


Ashes ( also called Cremated Remains}

If the funeral was a cremation and you have not yet decided what to do with the ashes, there is no need to rush. Some families choose to:

  • Keep the ashes at home.
  • Scatter them in a meaningful place (where permitted).
  • Bury or inter them in a cemetery.
  • Place them in a memorial garden or columbarium.

Take time to decide what feels right for you and your family.


Continue Managing Practical Matters

There may still be organisations to notify or accounts to close, including:

  • Subscription services.
  • Loyalty cards.
  • Online shopping accounts.
  • Clubs and memberships.
  • Social media accounts.

Keeping a checklist can help you stay organised.


Looking After Yourself

Bereavement affects everyone differently. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and no set timeline. Accept support from family, friends or bereavement organisations if you feel it would help. It's okay to take things one step at a time and complete practical tasks when you feel able.


Frequently Asked Questions

How long does it take to settle an estate?

Every estate is different. Some can be completed within a few months, while more complex estates may take considerably longer.

Do I have to decide what to do with the ashes immediately?

No. Most crematoria will keep ashes for a period of time if arrangements have not yet been made. Ask your chosen crematorium about their policy.

When can a headstone be installed?

This depends on the cemetery's regulations. Many require a period of time to allow the ground to settle before a permanent memorial is erected.


Related Guides

  • What to Do When Someone Dies
  • Registering a Death & Death Certificates
  • Probate & Estate Administration
  • Managing Someone's Affairs After Death
  • What Happens at a Cremation
  • Help with Funeral Costs